Something amazing happened last weekend.
I took Abby, only Abby, on an adventure to the grocery store.
Honestly (and sadly), I can’t remember the last time I spent time with JUST Abby since having Mackenzie 2 years ago. We’ve just been a unit the whole time. We do everything together. And while that’s great for the most part (because I truly believe the girls wouldn’t have the relationship they do without all the fun we have together), something is missing. And that something is one-on-one time with each of the girls.
While it may seem like something we should have been doing all along, it’s hard to find time to get away with just one kid (except for Caroline who spends lots of alone time with Mommy while her sisters are at school). But for the older girls, it requires help from Travis or help from a babysitter.
And wow, it’s definitely worth the help, because SO many things happened last Saturday.
- Abby found heaven (yes, Whole Foods is heaven for her because she loves food SO much)
- Abby felt so special and like such a big girl
- I remembered how easy (relatively speaking, of course) it is to accomplish tasks with only ONE kid in tow
- We were able to talk, uninterrupted, about all kinds of fun topics (essentially, whatever came to Abby’s mind at any given second)
- We had FUN roaming the isles, talking about what to cook
- Abby realized how much she missed (and therefore loves and appreciates) Mac and Caroline (multiple times saying, “I wish my sisters were here too”)
- And last but not least, I quickly realized that we need to prioritize one-on-one time with the girls
As I said before, it’s hard to find the time, but we MUST make it a priority. There were just too many positives that came out of the day not to make it one.
To top it all off, when Abby and I got home, Travis said he had a similar experience with Mackenzie (and Caroline – but mainly Mackenzie). She was eager to help clean the grill, she was in great spirits, she played very nicely with Caroline, and she missed Abby desperately (according to Travis, she kept saying, “I miss my Abby”).
When the girls were reunited, they played happily for the longest time and spent time in the kitchen helping me prep dinner. It was as if they’d been apart for weeks. It was amazing.
And as great as the experience was for the girls, it was equally wonderful for us as their parents. It’s so fun to see each kid thrive on their own and see how they process experiences and thoughts. Since they’re all so close in age, it can be so easy to lump them together and ONLY think of them as a group, but they are all so cool and unique on their own.
Mackenzie even got some special time with me yesterday when Abby started a dance class. We only had 45 minutes (and we had Caroline hanging out in the Bjorn), but we enjoyed a stroll around Berkeley, we picked up rocks, we looked at trees, and Mac got to feel like the big girl (even though she spend most of the time sucking her thumb 🙂 ). It was so simple yet so meaningful. Thankfully, that will be our special time every week.
And while this may seem like an odd thing for me to realize now (and yes, I know how amazing and unique each of my kids are), I’m glad we’re taking action now and not when they’re teenagers! One-on-one time with each kiddo is officially a priority in our home.
They love it.
And so do we.
It doesn’t have to be fancy or time consuming, but it absolutely has to happen.
Until next time,