7 Months. 7 Terms Redefined.

As a first time Mommy, I had BIG plans.

Then something happened…I actually became a Mommy.

Here I am, 7 months into this journey and I can’t help but look at the pre-Mommy version of myself and think I was totally nuts. I thought I would be working full time, cooking gourmet meals on a nightly basis, keeping a perfectly tidy house, working out consistently, and just being an all around supermom.

Based on many conversations I’ve had with other Moms (both new and of veteran status), I’ve learned that I’m not alone in this pre-Mommy turned actual-Mommy reality check. Reality has this sneaky way of coming in and forcing us to redefine how we thought things would be.  Sometimes it’s a welcome change (or at least a personal growth opportunity), and other times it’s a much bigger adjustment than we had ever prepared for.

I know this is only the beginning of what will be a very long list one day, but I had to start somewhere…

7 Months. 7 Terms Redefined.
(BB = Before Baby :: AB = After Baby)

1. Full Time
BB: meant 9a-5p, excessive excel spreadsheets, ergonomic office chairs, never ending emails, adult conversation, and happy hour on a whim.
AB: means 24/7-365, excessive spit-up and dirty diapers, less than ergonomic seating arrangements (think: floor, sandbox, etc), unanswered emails, babbling “conversations,” and dreams of happy hour.

2. Working Out
BB:
occurred every day (even during pregnancy), in a gym, on an elliptical, and would end with lifting and abs.
AB: includes nursing every day, going for a long walk on a good day, sneaking off to the gym on an exceptionally amazing day, and “lifting” every time I pick up my daughter.

3. Cooking
BB:
meant relaxation, experimentation, and quiet time. It also meant were able to sit peacefully, sip our wine and eat warm food without distractions.
AB: means preparing a single vegetable using a steamer basket and a food processor…oh, and when I do get around to cooking for us (the adults) it means half our meals are cold, we gulp our wine when the opportunity presents itself, and we play a fun game of “who’s holding her first tonight?” (which I tend to lose more often than Daddy does)

4. Breastfeeding
BB
: I was actually nervous about it but I did think it would be all-natural, beautiful, and an extra opportunity to bond.
AB
: It turns out that it’s my favorite morning activity (even though it was painful at the beginning), it’s laughable at times (think: engorgement), it’s relatively exhausting, and it’s extremely rewarding.

5. Husband
BB:
he was my best friend, my workout buddy and the future father of my children.
AB: now he’s the official weekend diaper changer (maintaining his best friend status), the official “fun parent” (already), and he’s officially my daughter’s favorite person in the whole world.

6. Milestones
BB: meant graduations, engagements, weddings, babies and retirements.
AB: means learning how to smile, figuring out how to sit up, experiencing solids (both going in and coming out), and making sure every tiny milestone is captured on an iPhone, a camera, or on video.

7. Cleanliness
BB
: meant a vacuumed floor, a shower a day and a spotless kitchen.
AB: means that as long as there aren’t too many puffs, cheerios or dust bunnies on the floor (or in the rolls of my daughter’s legs), and as long as I’ve showered in the past 48 hours (bonus points for changing out of my pajamas at some point during the day even if the change was into yoga pants), I’d consider our place (and myself) pretty darn clean.

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And let me be very clear about one thing: I couldn’t be happier about these new definitions (even though some have meant HUGE adjustments).  In my whopping 7 months of experience, I can say that being a Mommy is the best job in the whole world and it has challenged me to learn and grow faster than I ever thought possible.

QUESTION: I’m curious, what are some other words and/or phrases you’ve had to redefine since becoming a Mommy?

Read a few more of mine here: 3 Additional Terms Redefined

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16 Responses

  1. brookebryand says:

    Timeliness and time-li-ness:
    BB: “I’ll meet you at 9pm at the Tipsy Pig!”
    AB: “Uhhh, can we meet at 4:00pm at the park? And by 4:00, I’ll for SURE be there by 4:15??”

    Love this post…so very true!

  2. Megan B.B. says:

    I hope I shed my baby weight as seamlessly as you appear to have done. You are missing you cape, I think you deserve one!

    • 7x7xMommy says:

      You’re so sweet, Megan – I think I have a long way to go in Mommy-hood before I deserve a cape but maybe I could wear a training cape for the time being…:)

  3. Chris says:

    Awesome honey!
    You are adjusting wonderfully!!!!
    Love ya so!
    🙂

  4. Elena says:

    This is a great post, Ali! I pretty much expect every single one of them, except for 2 and 3. Somehow first time moms-to-be always think they’ll have time when the baby sleeps to do the cooking and working out.

    The cooking part will suck too, because everything we eat is cooked by us ( no processed foods at all) and that takes a long time. Plus with breastfeeding, you need to eat often and a lot. So I see that being a huge problem for me.

    • 7x7xMommy says:

      I’m glad you like the post, Elena! And yes, the cooking part is a difficult change but like everything else, it gets easier as they get a little older and can entertain themselves for a while. 🙂

  5. wiebkethrasher says:

    Beautifully written. So true. Thanks for making me laugh out loud so much. Glad we met because this is what my life looks like and I can’t wait to laugh more together.

  6. Megan says:

    Great post! Glad it’s not just me who has puffs and carrot remnants under our high chair and opts for putting getting out for a walk before vacuuming! My how things have changed!

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