What’s the most frequently asked question Travis and I get these days?
“When do you plan on having #2?”
And while some parents may have a hard time answering this question (especially after experiencing the first few months with a newborn), the answer for us is easy.
Truth be told, we were thinking about #2 before #1 ever came along and being that #1 arrived two months before our first wedding anniversary, I suppose you could say we’ve been “planning our family” since our first date (which is not much of an exaggeration).
We’ve always wanted kids. A family. To be young parents.
For us, that’s what life is all about. And that’s really all we know, having both come from extremely loving parents who put family above all else.
So in our minds, there’s no time like the present.
But don’t get too excited right now – I’m not about to announce anything huge.
While we’re planning on trying for #2 soon, we’re NOT pregnant.
At this point, there are still many factors to take into consideration:
- Spacing: this is always a big question for parents thinking about #2. Abigail is only 6.5 months old, after all…we would love for our children to be close (I’m 18 months younger than my brother and 7x7xDaddy is 2 years older than his sister – we both loved it), but we need to figure out how close we’d really like them to be. Are we ready for two in diapers???
- Nursing: I’m still nursing…this, of course, effects my “cycle” – if we’re really serious about trying soon, does this mean I’ll have to cut back on feedings? I spoke to my doctor about this and she basically said it’s possible. She said that each woman is different, but to get my system back “on track” I’d more than likely have to give it up. This obviously means we’d have to choose between nursing longer or having the spacing we’d ideally want.
- Cost: this is an obvious concern (especially after researching college costs)…kids are expensive!!! That being said, we’re not stopping at 1, so it just means we need to be wise in our saving, spending, and investing.
- Misc: gosh…where do I begin. Of course, there’s the thought of being pregnant again so soon…eek! Luckily, my first pregnancy was smooth so it’s not like I’m coming off some traumatic experience from #1 (thanks Abby!). There’s always the concern of having two babies in a two bedroom apartment in San Francisco (and ALL the annoyances that come along with that). Would we have to move? I don’t know the answer to that, but it’s definitely something to think about. This misc. category could go on and on, but I’ll keep it short and sweet right now.
Bottom line, I think it’s safe to say the following in response to people asking “When do you plan on having #2?”
Soon! We’re most definitely thinking about it. Planning on it. And we can’t wait for our family of 3 to become a family of 4. We have a lot of love to go around!